I notice this norm because although they are conflicting in real terms when put side to side, they still creep into our very own lives. The question is, is it that we ignore one and look to the other?, is it that we ignore our own values to let these contradicting views in? or do we just simply lift one over the other as we struggle in frustration?Are we really aware of the dissonance and feel guilt and anxiety as we partake in it? or are we just oblivious of its dissonance?
What do i mean?
Well, I can give a couple of examples, I’ll stick to the extreme and abstract because i am yet to look at my own contradictions and examine myself. The first one would probably be someone who claims to be a Christian yet sees nothing wrong with fornication, or picks and chooses what law or rule he or she wants to follow in the Bible based on how he/she feels. So,knowing fornication is “sin” in your own religion, yet willingly partaking in it “repeatedly”and by this example i mean this person might actually silently judge others who are partaking in fornication as “sinners” as well as “him/herself” after the act, yet take no action to stop.
A less extreme example but just as important can be smoking. When one knows the negatives of smoking, how it affects health of them and those around them, and the addiction yet still partakes in it.
A much less extreme one would be watching a TV show that goes against your values or belief system.I think i have done this many times, i simply ignore the negative parts and remember the good parts, even though i know its conflicting to my beliefs. That is one i am aware of now…..
And some of these behaviors might not be a willing action just repeated despite its conflict. It could be bondage, it could be addiction, the person can feel discomfort in partaking the action, guilt,dread and anxiety is also expected that is why it is “cognitive dissonance”.
I am just wondering if there is anything else in my life that i do that contradicts my Values?
I need to put on a thinking cap.